I’m on Year 2½ of what is, arguably, one of the toughest roles I’ve EVER had, i.e. being Mommy.
Some days it goes really well and I feel like I GOT THIS FAM, I’m the best mama everrr. Naps are taken on time, bowls of food are wiped clean (walang tira! yay!), toys are put away in their proper places.
On other days, I want to curl up in a ball and growl at everyone to leave me alone. Bucketfuls of guilt over everything — from being a working mom to not giving my son more leafy greens at the table.
Guess what I realized, mama? We don’t have to enjoy every moment of motherhood. We don’t have to be the Insta-perfect mama 100% of the time.
And that’s okay.
It’s okay to have those ups and downs. It’s okay to need alone time one minute, then need the MAXIMUM amount of hugs the next. We don’t have to sweat the small stuff. More often than not, we are our own worst critics.
Remember, taking time out to de-stress is important, not just for yourself, but for your little ones too. 👌
If one of your favorite things to do to wind down is whipping up something in the kitchen, you’re in luck. ShopBack teamed up with RedMart to release its first cookbook, “For Mum, With Love,” which you can download here for free.
It has 18 tried-and-tested recipes with varying levels of difficulty, from delicious meals like Sardines and Pineapples in Tangy and Spicy Coconut Sauce (sardinas with a twist!) to feel-good classic desserts like Chocolate Chip Cookies and the Singaporean coconutty favorite Ondeh Ondeh.
So download away! Here’s to good food and to us “good enough” mamas! 😘
I see these pudgy babies on my friends’ Facebook pages, all cheeks and Michelin man arms, and I imagine these are the babies those Food Network and Tasty Junior and Annabel Karmel recipes were written for.
These are the babies who’ll probably wolf down my homemade baby mac n’ cheese (artfully blended to hide all the vege he’ll surely spit out at first sight) and ask for seconds.
I remember the grief I had (and insane amount of Googling I did) when all he ate at ten months old were boxed infant cereal and apples.
I took the parenting books to heart by keeping him fully on breastmilk for his first six months — but I knew of parents who had started feeding bub purées at four months and they were eating way ahead of Squishy at his age.
I worried. Did we start him too late on solid food?
We tried all the tricks to no avail. I bought a ceramic slow cooker to cook Japanese rice mixed with different ingredients and vegetables to vary the tastes, prepared food with different textures and colors, used funky cutlery and plates to get him interested in eating.
Nothing. He barely ate.
We took our concerns to the pediatrician who told us not to worry. His weight was fine (50th percentile). He was active. He was hitting his milestones.
He’s eating well — a rotation of steamed rice, pasta, meesua, and his favorite bread for carbs; chicken, pork, fish, and (sometimes) beef for protein; broccoli, carrots, and a bit of spinach for his vege. He loves bananas, apples, and mangoes. He’s more adventurous in his diet, eager to give everything a try (but also quick to spit it out if he doesn’t like it too much, like onions).
We think we should feed him more leafy greens and he still gets a bit red when we feed him eggs, but we’re working on expanding his menu.
Squishy’s no Michelin baby, but he’s not light to carry either.
He’s active as he can be, thriving, and best of all — he looks happy.
So what changed?
The short answer is: nothing.
Squishy just gradually came around to trying more new things. That’s it. His eating “issue” sorted itself out in time.
Believe me, I know how frustrating it can get to see your bub refuse food. But after our experience with Squishy, I realize babies and kids are smart. They will let you know when they’re hungry (loud and clear). They won’t starve themselves. They’ll gradually come around, on their own, to eating all the healthy food on your table.
Like our pediatrician said, as long as your bub is hitting his or her milestones, is active, playful, and cheerful, don’t get too hung up on the percentiles. Baby will be fine. 🙂
Now, for all you parents with easy-to-feed kids! (Jealous *sob*) Do you have time to make them cute bento-style lunch boxes? (Jealous again)
This giveaway is for you! 🙂
The MamaDramaSG Kawaiiii Mini-giveaway
I picked up the prizes in our last trip to Japan so they’re 100% legit. 🙂 There will be five (5) winners getting one prize each, chosen at random:
– Kawaii bento picks (cute eyes, mini animals) x4
– A sausage mold set x1
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– This giveaway is open only to parents resident in Singapore.
– This is not a sponsored promotion. This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook. I hereby release Facebook of any liability.
– The giveaway starts 14 Mar 2017 and ends 01 Apr 2017.
– Your personal details are entered through the @GleamApp and I have no access to these. I will only be able to see the details of the winner automatically selected by the @GleamApp.
– There will be five (5) winners getting one (1) prize each (chosen at random). The winners will be contacted by email 24 hours after the giveaway ends. If there is no response within 48 hours, I reserve the right to draw another winner.
– The prize will be mailed to the address specified by the winner. No special requestsfor delivery requiring additional charges on my part will be entertained.
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We had our second staycation over the weekend, just the Hubby and me, at One Farrer Hotel and Spa near Farrer Park MRT station.
One thing unique about the hotel was their complimentary minibar offering. I was used to seeing hotels charge crazy prices for a pack of crisps you can get cheap as chips in the next door 7-11. One Farrer’s minibar selection was decent: three sodas, three snack packs (roasted nuts, Oriental snacks and gummy bears) and a pack of Lay’s.
Slightly disappointed with the frazzled breakfast staff — no coffee offered until we asked and they didn’t refill the dishes fast enough.
That said, because the hotel was fully booked we got a complimentary upgrade to the family “Urban Den” which had a separate space for kids to sleep and even watch their own TV shows (there was a daybed and a pullout, see middle photo below). So I’m still keeping this hotel in mind for when Hubby and I both have our families visiting at the same time.
The Hubby’s family coming over to visit last week was precisely the reason why we were able to escape overnight anyway. Whenever we have family over we try and go on these mini-staycations while we’re sure we’re leaving Squishy in a lot of safe hands.
I think these little escapes from being mom/dad are important.
And the fact that new parents fight a lot in baby’s first year is not the worst part of it. What’s worse is its consequences for baby:
Sustained exposure to hostility can erode a baby’s IQ and ability to handle stress, sometimes dramatically. An infant’s need for caregiver stability is so strong, he will rewire his developing nervous system depending upon the turbulence he perceives.
This is worrying news for us new parents. How do we avoid fighting with our partners in baby’s stressful first year?
For us, Date Night is especially sacred — one dinner (or even a movie night or weekend brunch) every week when it’s just Hubby and me. It’s time reserved for us — we can chat about how our week went, show each other funny things we found on YouTube, catch up on the latest Game of Thrones spoilers.
Sometimes talk turns to Squishy. But we try and steer the conversation back to us, to him and me before we were three. 🙂
Try it. It doesn’t even have to be a special date night. Hold hands while walking back home from the MRT. If you work near each other, catch up over lunch. Give each other a sweet surprise — a takeaway tray of his/her favorite char kway teow, a mushy Whatsapp message, or a really tight hug.
Your kids will thank you for it.
Scroll down for another sweet surprise…
Here it comes, my very first giveaway!
The MamaDramaSG Sweet Hamper Giveaway ♥
What better way to spend a Friday night than lounging on the couch with your special sweetie, guzzling champagne and eating treats from the glamorous Subtle Sweet Hamper— for free?
Here’s your chance to make that happen!
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– A bottle of Wine/Champagne (Producta Bolero VDT Bordeaux Rouge, 750ml) – Artisan Du Chocolat Chocolate Salted Caramel Honeycomb, 150g – Ocelot Chocolate – Salted Marcona Almonds, 75g – La Belle Chaurienne Terrine, 180g – Cartwright & Butler Linseed & Sesame Seed Flatbreads – Luxury Gold Tin with Twin Pack Biscuits, 300g – Gift Hampers Singapore Signature Basket
Cool, right? Some T&Cs for you to carefully read before entering:
Terms & Conditions (Please read):
– This giveaway is open only to parents resident in Singapore.
– This is not a sponsored promotion and I am not affiliated with Gift Hampers Singapore, and accept no liability related to their services. This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook. We hereby release Facebook of any liability.
– The giveaway starts 17 Jun 2016 and ends 01 Jul 2016.
– Your personal details are entered through the @GleamApp and I have no access to these. I will only be able to see the details of the winner automatically selected by the app.
– There will be one winner. The winner will be contacted by email 24 hours after the giveaway ends. If there is no response within 48 hours, I reserve the right to draw another winner.
– I reserve the right to replace the prize hamper with a hamper of materially equivalent value if the prize hamper is out of stock.
– The hamper will be sent at standard delivery times/days, at the address specified by the winner. No special requests for delivery requiring additional charges on my part will be entertained.